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Learn to say no to activities that will increase fatigue

It can be hard to say no when people invite you out or ask you to do something for them, even if you know that it’ll leave you feeling exhausted. People with fatigue tend to keep agreeing to things because they feel they should or they think their own needs aren’t important. Explain about your fatigue and what it would mean for you to say yes.

Saying no doesn’t have to mean you don’t take on any of the activity at all. Could you use the pacing strategies and only take on part of the request? For example, you could agree to go shopping but only for half a day. Discussing your own health needs isn’t being aggressive, it’s simply helping people understand your situation and being confident about how much you can reasonably do.

Learning to say no is an important step towards self-managing your fatigue and will help you in achieving daily goals. Most people will understand if you explain that you want to do something in a different way so you can save your energy for the good things in life.


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